People who reach high levels of performance and become exceptionally effective in their field show certain patterns of behaviour that many people would not even be aware of.
One of these patterns is the ability to manage their state, or be ‘emotionally intelligent’ as some like to call it.
However, managing your state is only one element of the patterns that people like this engage. There is more to it, and after reading this article you will have a better idea of how you too can manage your state more effectively.
Elements To Consider
When managing your state it can be useful to consider the context that you are in. For example, a state that will be appropriate while at a romantic dinner with your partner, will probably not be your best option while sitting at a family dinner.
Aligning state and context creates functionality of behaviour as illustrated by research published in the article How to Control your feelings – and live happily ever after, By Steve Ayan published in Scientific American Mind magazine.
When describing the findings of the research, the article reads â€œTamir and Ford found that people with high emotional intelligence opted for whichever feeling had greatest utility – regardless of whether that emotion was pleasant.â€
Which brings us to the next point. Your intention for being in that context and communicating with those people.
Your Intentions Matter
Being aware of what you want from or in a specific situation is another important focus of attention. Having a clear intention can be a very useful guide to choosing your state to support you in a given situation.
For example if somebody is at work just with the intention to make some money and go home at the end of the day, they will have a strikingly different state from that of somebody who is at work to engage actively and make progress in their career.
Being aware of these differences and aligning them consistently can help you become exceptionally effective in whatever you choose to do.
Now it’s your turn!
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Edited by Jules Collingwood, NLP Trainer at INSPIRITIVE
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